Our Behaviors

For our ’sometimes’ behaviors to become ‘all-the-time’ behaviors, there must be a significant internal shift. That is, a permanent emotional and psychological transformation. I’ll say it again – PERMANENT!!! Our behaviors (and therefore our results) are merely a by-product of what’s happening between our ears.
On some level, the vast majority of us don’t actually expect to succeed with our goals and that’s a big part of the problem. We hope but we don’t expect.
Does the guy who starts a new weight-loss regime today (attempt number 457), truly believe (on a subconscious level) that his life (eating, exercise, health, body-fat level, habits, behaviors, results) will be totally different from this day forth? No. Of course not. Does he have the potential to change? Yep. The mindset? No.
Until this guy makes the relevant (life-changing) behaviors TOTALLY NON-NEGOTIABLE he will continue to find himself back at the starting line because consciously or not, intentionally or not, those required behaviors and habits (the ones necessary to create forever results) are optional (for him). Yep, the diet guy always gives himself an escape clause.
When something is TOTALLY non-negotiable our choice (to throw in the towel yet again) is taken away from us. Making certain behaviors non-negotiable removes things like motivation, mood, difficulty and attitude from the equation.
The life-long smoker who ‘can’t’ give up cigarettes is told by the doctor that if he continues to smoke he will be dead within twelve months. He walks out of the doctor’s office terrified and never smokes again. Why? Because his desire to live is stronger than his desire to smoke. He experiences instant massive internal shift (as a result of speaking with the doctor) which results in smoking being permanently deleted from his list of potential ‘things-to-do’! Identify your non-negotiable behaviors and live a life that is a mirror image of those standards. Look for effective, not easy.
I hope this helps.